The Fine Art of Flirting (Part 1 of 2)
It's sad but true, but most relationships die of boredom. Familiarity breeds contempt. A relationship that starts out with dancing, fine dining and flying kites on the beach soon turns into watching your object of desire clipping his toenails together in front of the television. Or he finds you answering his phone call with a decidedly unromantic: "Yeah, waddya' want."Another fine cliche is "couples that play together, stay together." Studies have shown that eighty percent of couples who divorce say they grew apart because they no longer shared interesting activities together. Romance is taken over by complacency, apathy, duty and a sense of dogged obligation.
The idea is to keep your partner interested in you by flirting with him or her every day... Practice what I call the FLIRT rule:
F stands for flirting. Most people stop flirting, after they feel they have hooked the partner, because they think they are finally "safe." Flirting keeps the relationship fresh. It's friendly, it's fun and flatters your partner. Also flirting with others is not a bad idea, if you want to keep your partner on his or her toes.
L stands for love. Love is just not sexual, it also includes showing tenderness, compassion, mercy, understanding, affection and appreciation for your partner.
It is also means being civil, courteous and polite. Don't be demanding of your partner - say please and thank you. Don't verbally criticize him or her when he or she makes a mistake Verbal criticism is a real turn-off and breeds a resentment that can brew into a passive-aggressive avoidance of sexual activity.
Don't turn disputes into power or ego struggles - make it a rule never to go to bed angry with each other. Count to ten if before you open your mouth and consider if what you want to say is something that you would want sent to you.
Understand that your partner is a separate entity from you and not a possession or something that you can take for granted. Relationships are earned, not entitlements.
Make sure you give your physical partner a daily dose of affection. Some relationship experts say you should never let your partner leave without giving them a kiss that lasts at least one full minute. Also, when it comes to relationships, flattery gets you everywhere; express appreciation for your partner by giving them gifts or doing small favours as a token of your appreciation.
I stands for intimacy. When you get in the bedroom, turn the television off. Take a bath together every once again. Touch your partner often and never ever shut down the avenues of verbal communication to punish each other.
Be open and receptive to... [Continued: Flirting 2]