The Fine Art of Flirting (Part 2 of 2)
(Continued from Flirting)Be open and receptive to your partner's loving overtures, no matter how tired or anxious you have been during the day. Many people make the mistake of perceiving their partner as a whipping post or punching bag that can somehow "take it." Usually they find out this is not true long after the partner is gone.
R stands for risk. Never, ever totally commit to your partner in a way that implies that you will never, ever leave him or her. Don't fall into co-dependency. Draw boundaries. Make it clear to him or her that there are plenty of more fish in the sea if he or she shows the slightest disinterest.
Don't do the same things every day. Change your routines. Change your appearance. Always keep an element of risk, surprise or unpredictability in the relationship to keep your partner wondering what you might do next. Although this tactic might sound a tad too strategic or manipulative, it is key to keeping your partner's sexual interest in you alive. However, this does not mean you should compare your lover to other lovers or create jealousy on purpose. That is a common form of psychological abuse that can lead to verbal abuse, misunderstandings and even physical abuse in a marriage.
T stands for trust. There is nothing more tedious than a liar or a cheat. Once a cycle of betrayal has begun, it becomes repetitive, with one partner repeating his or her actions and the other seething with recriminations and resentments. The minute one partner betrays another, it is over. Don't stick around to give this person a second chance. Partners who show contempt for each other yet don't have the courage to separate when the relationship is not working out are not only the most mundane creatures on earth, but they become very boring for others to deal with. Don't be afraid of change, if decay does set in.
According to relationship experts, the best way to keep your partner's heart pumping for you is to always have them identify you with the idea of excitement. If they identify you with unpleasant qualities, such as control, clinginess, complacency or even too much emotional security, the relationship is not likely to last. In fact, evolutionary biologists tell us that taking a partner to a scary movie or on a thrilling amusement ride can rev up one's sex life, as the same chemicals in our brain that are responsible for creating fear also create sexual desire.
There are also some physical moves that you can make to show that you are interested in the opposite sex. There's turning your body so that it faces your partner, and the batting of lashes or bashful averting of eyes. However, one of the best ways to make a deep, lasting soul-connection is to lock both of your gazes and enjoy the mirror of Divine Love that you see reflected there.