What Do You Want From Romance? (Part 1 of 2)
Most people believe that the soul-mate they long for is out there, somewhere, waiting for them. That person could be online, in the local bar or folding clothes at the local laundromat. The thing about love is that you just never know who you are going to bump into next on the road to romance.
Many of us succumb to a kind of panic when we make it our goal to find a new lover or partner. We figure that the first person who comes along and pays a little attention to us might have been sent to us by fate. We settle for less, meaning a completely appropriate partner, simply because we fear that the person we are sort of with might be the last person on earth who will ever be interested in us.
Before you start dating or looking for a marriage partner, it is important to develop a list of goals. What do you intend to do with your own life in the near future? What qualities or characteristics must a person possess in order to augment your progress? By valuing and developing your own goals and emphasizing your own distinctive qualities you will develop a confidence and self-reliance that others find attractive.
Although it's true that the only way to meet new people is to socialize, many people make the mistake of thinking they have to do something unusual or off the beaten path in order to meet new people. If you are into heavy metal, don't sign up for square dancing lessons. Do what you love and a partner who shares your interests usually shows up sooner or later.
When you make a list of goals of what you find attractive about someone else it is important to note to yourself if you possess these same qualities. If love is a deal where you are bringing an offer to a table, just exactly what is it that you have to offer other people?
Do you offer a potential partner a needy, desperate person who is looking for someone to pay the rent? Make a list of all the good reasons why someone should go out with you and emphasize those qualities.
Finding a partner is not about filling a void in your life, especially if that hole is a gap of personal insecurity waiting to be filled with flattery and approval from the opposite sex.
By choosing to work on your issues and becoming as whole and emotionally healthy as possible you gain the emotional strength to break old relationship patterns and meet someone different. One way to do this is to decide you will be happy in life, with or without a partner.
Once you have cleared... [Continued: Dating Objectives 2]