Getting Back Into the Dating Game After A Bad Breakup (Part 2 of 2)
(Continued from After a Breakup)Studies on the placebo effect have shown that sometimes even just faking a smile can produce genuine feelings of well being and cheer...
Tell yourself that every time you think or state a bitter or negative remark about yourself or others that you draw more of the same into your life. Try to discipline your mind so that it only goes to happy and productive places. This is one sure way to ensure that you will too.
Fate does not doom people to a life full of fear and betrayal. Mother Nature wants you to recover from your post-break-up doldrums so try to humor her hints to cheer up and go with the flow. Don't stay in and isolate yourself from the hard, cruel world.
Just because you feel betrayed by one person, doesn't mean that all people you encounter in the future will betray you in the same way. It is crucial not to lose your faith in yourself as well as other human beings.
The great spiritual counselor, Florence Scovell Shinn maintains that we tend to manifest the very thing that we fear. Franklin D. Roosevelt was essentially saying the same thing with those famous words, "We have nothing to fear but fear itself." With so much going on in the world, how is it possible for you to fear something as simple and common as dating?
Studies have shown that most people don't fear rejection. What they really fear is their own reaction to rejection. If you look at this objectively, than what your fear of dating is really just a matter of self-control. Perhaps the best way to master this fear is to accept the fact that rejection is a normal part of dating and assure yourself that you can handle any situation that may arise without doing punitive emotional damage to yourself or others.
Dating after you have been in a couple for a long time can be a hard thing to do, especially if you are not the type that enjoys going to clubs or bars. As strange as this might sound, your best chances of meeting someone new are probably at book clubs, neighborhood social events and church gatherings.
Many people have also had success by posting a profile on a dating site that features an online chat room. Others find love in the workplace environment. Doing something you love, such as a favorite hobby or sports, also might bring you someone you love. The important thing is to get out of the house.
Basically you can be asked out on a date in any situation, as long as you make yourself emotionally available to others. People who are single, but who are still obsessing or brooding about an ex partner don't tend to be asked out because they are putting out a vibration that still says "Stay away! My heart belongs to another."
One way to draw a soul mate to you is to put into practice the very same qualities that you are looking for in another partner. For instance if you are looking for a date that is tender, compassionate, loving and has a good sense of humor than start displaying those qualities to all you meet.
This is one great way of drawing more positive people into your life as well as sending a message out to the universe that you a ready, willing and able to build a relationship with a kindred soul.